The guardian guide to dating
Just because you fancy a date doesn’t mean you are looking for someone to fill a void.
Also, for anyone dating a single parent, we aren’t necessarily looking for an immediate co-parent, we are looking for a date – those are two very different things.
If you’re unsure, ask a friend or colleague that you trust to tell you what they think your best traits are.
Don’t be afraid to show off a bit, just be careful not to cross the line into the arrogant arena.
Writing what is essentially a personal sales pitch – your online dating profile – can feel like a somewhat tricky task, but it doesn’t have to be. There are hundreds of people in just the same position as you, so making sure you’re the one that logs in to a full inbox is all down to what you include (and don’t include) in your profile.
Don’t: Be shy Us Brits pretty much rule the school when it comes to self-deprecating humour, and although it can seem weird listing the things you think others will find attractive in you, be confident and go for it.
When you’re a parent, things can feel even tougher.
When I first started dating again after my son (who is now three) was born, my confidence and self-belief couldn’t have been lower.
I now realise that my family is something to celebrate, rather than hide, and that the right person will recognise this also.You’re a mum, yes, but you’re also a woman who wants to flirt and enjoy a nice glass of wine in some adult company.I think it’s important to make clear to the person you are dating that you aren’t looking for any help with parenting.The problem is theirs, don’t waste time feeling like it’s yours.