Dating and serious relationship
So when it comes to work events, weddings, and family get togethers, keep your casual person out of it. This seems like a no-brainer, but we are creatures of habit and we are generally terrible at protecting our holy spaces, and YES, if you're a young (or even young-ish) person, the bars, coffee shops, and other hangouts you frequent are indeed your holy places.
There's nothing wrong with having serious relationships; clearly, they are just great...
Worst case scenario: You cool on your attraction to them, in the meantime they fall hard—for both you and your favorite cafe. The whole situations evokes a kind of intimacy you just shouldn't mess with if you want to maintain a certain degree of distance with someone.
Once you pick up someone's snotty tissue balls or vice versa, there's no going back.
This type of social interaction can cue way too much stress, and introducing that kind of social stress into a casual relationship defeats the purpose of keeping things non-serious. If the ratio is more individual friends than couples (and at least five of them to start with), it's probably a safe bet to bring someone you're only kinda involved with.
Also, if you start showing up with someone to events like these, the people in your life are going to start associating the two of you as a couple, and sometimes other people defining your relationship can have a significant impact on actually defining it. If you're going to start including someone you're sleeping with into more intimate social outings with your close posse, you might as well give them a goddamn drawer.It accidentally established a kind of intimacy that forever warped our situation. That's the most important part, really: Maintaining an open policy of honesty between the two of you.Keep each other in the loop with your life and feelings, especially if either changes. Okay, maybe it is for some of us, but we can totally do it. My name is Beca and up until relatively recently, I was a serial monogamist.